I read a post the other day on FB about being tired of people getting in relationships or having kids, then stop hanging out with their "old friends". I have to say, I agree with him totally. I guess my question is what causes this change? Is there an unknown pressure to show how committed you are to your new duty as a spouse or father?
I've seen it happen more with women than men. Someone new comes into their life, and all of a sudden, they just drop off the face of the earth. Why is it though? I've found myself REALLY enjoying doing nothing now that Parker is here. With my wife, we both had our own separate interests and friends. So, anytime we felt the need to do something, we called them up and did it. With P, I'm okay with counting her fingers and toes a million times a day. Maybe the "new" will wear off? I go through Facebook posts and see friends out and just having the time of their lives, and I'm like, "am I missing out?" "Should I have accepted that offer to chill?" It's just weird how fast the idea of what happiness is changes. I wake up every few hours to feed P on the "night shift" and at first I'm groggy, but not 30 seconds into it does my whole mindset change to, "this is pretty f'in dope!" I can't get this sensation at a bar. However, the calls to chill become less frequent the more involved you become. Is that your friends respecting that new life you've created. Is the assumption that if WE wanted to hang out, it's up to us now? Are our friends tired of knowing we'll pass on every invite? Or, am I simply reminiscing too much on the days of old?
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